Tree with Beige blooms (piglet quote, grief resources)

My last post had pictures of some powdered myrrh… and as I was cleaning up my desktop this morning, I thought I would post what I originally had planned for the beige and texture challenge – it was this beautiful tree that sits in the courtyard at the Glen Allen Cultural Arts Center.

In the early spring, this tree has beige blooms with texture that really dazzles:


tree with beige blooms with soft texture

beige blooms

beige blooms two

I also want to share this song that I used to use for stretching in 2013.  It is more geared toward a younger generation -(ha)  but two years ago – this was my official “pause and stretch and get the kinks out” song….


Lastly, a quick thank you for comments and emails regarding our neighbors sad losses  – thanks so much – truly ❤ and someone sent me this Winnie The Pooh quote, which reminded me of this interview I once saw with an old widow, who did not live near any of her children of grandchildren.

When asked if she was sad about being alone, she said,  something like, “Oh no! I’m not alone,  they do not have to be here to be with me”  – she touched her chest, smiled – and added, “they’re always with me… their love is all inside me and will never go away…”  and then they showed her room – which was filled with cards, photos, notes, etc. 

That always stuck with me – because while I do wish I lived closer to family (especially my mom right now – 🙂 ) and while I also really miss those that have passed away –

the truth is –

sometimes people are with us without being present –

post for memories
“But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.”



 Lastly, just FYI – some GRIEF recourses:

General Resources

The Grief Toolbox A website dedicated to helping people early in their grief journey to find the resources they need. Site includes a support group locator.

Modern Loss A website that encourages open and honest discussion about living with grief and loss at any stage during the process. The site includes a platform for sharing your story and columns that explore different aspects of grief and bereavement.

Losing a Spouse A resource that provides information and support for people that have lost a spouse. (800) 952-6650 A resource dedicated to those who seek information and support as they care for aging parents, spouses, and other loved ones.’s Family Advisors provide customized support to help caregivers and seniors find the right senior care resources for every unique situation. Information on grief and loss includes dealing with a diagnosis, end-of-life care, and grieving a death.

Where to go for help in USA

National Organizations

Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) ADEC is one of the oldest interdisciplinary organizations in the field of dying, death and bereavement. Its nearly 2,000 members include a wide array of mental and medical health personnel, educators, clergy, funeral directors and volunteers.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) AFSP is dedicated to bringing people together to prevent suicide, and to help heal the pain it causes. Resources for those bereaved by suicide include a support group locator, information on how find a therapist, and opportunities to get involved with the organization.

Open to Hope An online forum to support people who have experienced loss and to help them cope with their pain, heal their grief and invest in their future.

The Compassionate Friends TCF has about 660 chapters serving all 50 states plus Washington D.C., Puerto Rico, and Guam offering friendship, understanding, and hope to bereaved parents, siblings, grandparents, and other family members during the natural grieving process after a child has died. The Compassionate Friends also has a presence in more than 30 countries around the world.

National Organization of Parents of Murdered Children (POMC) An organization committed to providing emotional support and assistance to parents and other survivors of homicide victims. There are more than 50 chapters across the United States that hold monthly support meetings, and provide advocacy and court accompaniment. A web-based organization, providing a platform offering bereaved individuals an opportunity to transition their grief into a healthy grief recovery. Users can create tributes to memorialize their loved one and share with family and friends.

National Alliance for Grieving Children A nationwide network of professionals and volunteers who share ideas, information and resources with each other to better support the grieving children and families they serve. The NAGC offers online education, hosts an annual symposium on children’s grief, maintains a national database of children’s bereavement support programs and promotes national awareness to enhance public sensitivity to the issues impacting grieving children and teens.

Where to go for help in UK

CRUSE Bereavement Care
The national telephone helpline 0844 477 9400 is open for calls from 9.30am to 5pm working days, and until 7pm on Mondays and Wednesdays, answered mainly by a team of trained volunteers.  They have a lot of information available to them and will give information about benefits, listen to your story and give you information about Cruse locally where you live.

The Compassionate Friends UK
National Helpline 0845 123 2304 is available for support and information daily from 10.00am to 4.00pm and 7.00pm to 10.00pm.  The line is always answered by a bereaved parent. TCF is a charitable organisation of bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents dedicated to the support of and care of other bereaved parents, siblings and grandparents who have suffered the death of a child / children.

Winston’s Wish
Winston’s Wish national helpline 08452 030405 offers support, information and guidance to all those caring for a child or young person who has been bereaved.

The WAY Foundation
WAY aims to support young widowed men and women as they adjust to life after the death of their partner – whether that was a month, a year, or ten years ago.
Tel: 0300 012 4929, email:

Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS)
Exists to meet the needs and break the isolation of those bereaved by the suicide of a close relative or friend.  SOBS is a self-help organisation.  Many of our volunteers have themselves been bereaved by suicide.
National Helpline – 0844 561 6855 9am to 9pm every day.

Find out more about the contributors to this article and the Division of Counselling Psychology.

Some useful books

The 8 Keys to Trauma Recovery by Babette Rothschild
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman
Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery and Growth Through Grief by Judy Tatelbaum
Overcoming Grief by Sue Morris
Living on the Seabed: A Memoir of Love, Life and Survival by Lindsay Nicholson
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis



49 thoughts on “Tree with Beige blooms (piglet quote, grief resources)

    1. thanks Andy – and I wish I knew the name of it (do you know?)
      – I thought it was a gum tree, but the next time I go there I will ask someone who works there if they know,

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        1. cool let me know if you find anything. And we are going there next month so if we don;t figure it out – I will try and follow up with it then. 🙂

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    1. they kinda bring me peace too – and I did not even realize that until you noted it – thanks and have a great rest of the week


    1. Lisa just noted that it might be a smokebush or smoke tree – I am going to find out when we visit there this spring.


  1. What a beautiful and heartfelt post! Thank you for sharing with is the information as well as the two quotes from Milne as well as the grandmother… So touching …

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  2. Your tree and blooms look a lot like our smokebush… In this area they come with lime green or bronze leaves and can grow quite large, maybe this variety is related?


    1. Lisa – I think you are correct – it does look very similar – and well, thanks for noting that. I am going there soon and I will drop by your blog and let you know what they say 0 because their variety is a little different – but those blooms are almost identical to the wiki ones. 🙂

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  3. Yvette I think it so helpful that you have included these resources for readers. I think so many suffer in silence and deal with grief or perhaps don’t deal with it, many years after an event. Sending a hug to you.


    1. Thanks so much Sue – (hug back too) and with the resources, well I was glad that when I cut and pasted them the links stayed active – made it very easy. and I thought about only putting in one or two – but then I thought choices are good! Also, a small part of me wonders if David’s dad became ill because of strew he endured while adapting to his son’s passing – like I have heard of some spouses passing within six months of each other – and well I do not know the details and I want to respect their privacy as much as possible – but grief that is not dealt with can poison… and I really like how you noted that even years after the event it could need looking at and assessing too…. makes me want to hug everyone a little closer – and maybe for a little longer ❤ ❤

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      1. One has to wonder about the stress on the Dad losing his son. So very, very tragic. Yes I would say hugging those we love long and tight is in order.


  4. Texture? Everything about that tree is a big wonder. 😉 Awesome!
    With the job that I do, I’m always away. I’ve gotten used to it. And as long as I don’t forget and keep communication in tact, everything’s good. 😀


    1. well I will post again when I find out what kind of tree it is. And when you drop the ol’ anchor Rommel – you are going to have some amazing travel stories to tell – that’s for sure!


  5. Great write! The tree is beautiful. That’s really great you posted the websites and things to help people. Really sweet. Hope you have a great day. You and your friends loved ones are still in my prayers. God bless you.


  6. So RICH, and really a beautiful post. After a while (vague, I know) of encountering your blog, photography, good-good writing, and … your music (as in this post), I’m getting it that you are extravagantly energetic, outside the box, and redemptively radical. WOW! I have some seat-belts attached to my desk chair, and I buckle them up when I visit your blog. Peace, friend.


    1. thanks T – and I know what you mean about how we start to get a feel for the blogger after a while – it is actually pretty cool – and laughing at the seat-belt thing – (and this song was at a time when I was sitting – for like 10 hours a day) but if you came to visit my place in real life – you would have to have napkins attached because I would definitely try and feed you – ! ha! have a good week and TTYS


  7. This post is thought provoking in the feeling of closeness we can have with loved ones.
    A.A. Milne, probably had his son Christopher Robin in mind when he wrote those touching words.

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    1. thanks for your comment Jack – it led me to go and look up Milne’s story a bit more (here) and well, when my stepdaughter and boys were young – they did not read much Pooh – so I still have much to learn and appreciate – but we did have the cool video with
      “up down, touch the ground in the mood for food” song…
      and of course they knew some Pooh from the year we went to Disney World on and off every month – well my youngest liked the Pooh bear character at the park the most!


      1. I was trying to remember Christopher Robin saying his prayers but had to look it up on Google, while doing that I found out A A Milne maned his son Christopher Robin. When the son grew up it said he was a confirmed atheist. There is a bit of useless trivia.
        What you may find more interesting is the book The Tao of Pooh. Illustrations of all the Milne characters but not written by AA Milne.
        I do not know if you will find reading it as good as I did as I find wisdom in the most unusual places.

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        1. well I have not followed your blog very long – but I have noticed that you can find wisdom all around – and you extract a life lesson from so many little things too – thanks for noting those resources too –

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  8. Teary eyes over here. I live two hours away from my parents and only see them about once a month; it’s the little things like not being able to have dinner with them any day, or watch a movie together that get to me. I’m extremely independent, but I adore my momma.

    Felt all the feels with your words. Also LOVED the texture! Thinking really hard because I think I’ve seen this here, I have this memory of touching a similar tree/plant.

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    1. thanks for your comment narami – and that has to be such a tease to be 2 hours away – but it is still a hefty drive and well, at least you do get that time once a month.
      And I know that this is just how our culture is these days – we have scattered family members everywhere – with pros and cons to that – but my spring trip to see my momma cannot come soon enough –
      anyhow, I really like how you said
      “Felt all the feels with your words.” – ❤ ❤

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