Hello blog readers.
There is a small tradition at Priorhouse, which involves sharing three books from the month of September.
Today’s post covers Three Books from September 2018
September 2016 post here
September 2017 here.
I am a little late – (ha) but did want to get this post up and out because it is fun to share about books.
Post Word Count: 1,600
Estimated Time to Read: 15 to 20 minutes
Before I share the books – in keeping with my tradition, here is the Delancey Place book excerpt I liked from September 2018: CATERPILLARS TURN INTO BUTTERFLIES (here)
“Even after decades of research, all the details of this (butterfly) metamorphosis are not completely understood.”
“In fact, its life may depend on the strength of its grip. If the soon-to-be chrysalis can’t hang on through wind and rain, it will probably die when it hits the ground, bursting like a water balloon.”
I love that point – about how success is found in “the strength of its grip” – because doesn’t this apply to us humans? Sometimes? – Especially when going through change and growing pains? – Quite often the best strategy is to hang on – keep a strong grip! Success comes from keeping our grip while letting growth and change do their work. Staying stable. Remembering that failure, change, and setback are mandatory parts of success. So let’s not grow weary if we are having one of those “hanging on” seasons.
Keep a strong grip, and smile, because some beautiful phases are coming.
BOOK 1: The Dale Carnegie Course in Effective Speaking and Human Relations by Dale Carnegie
This Carnegie book was on my mother’s bookshelf. (She has an eclectic collection. The book I read after Carnegie’s was Pressure Points for Massage.)
I loved exploring Carnegie’s “course” in a booklet. The old font and old page set up in the book reminded me how far we have come with book publishing. I did not realize the first publication of this book was 1912.
However, this book also reminded me that some things are timeless.
Like sharing information via a book – timeless.
Offering tips for relating with folks, working in business, and effectively speaking – timeless.
My favorite two parts of the book are in the image above.
First: The tip on how to properly talk about yourself.
So many humble people shy away from sharing – when they are the ones we want to hear more from; instead, we tend to get a lot of blabbering from the extroverts or even those high introverts who are forcing thugs by trying to over promote themselves. And i just recently encountered someone who was on that track – what I call the heavy pursuit (with angst) of trying to get some status and stats – whew -that is a tiring quest – and I am not saying we should not put effort into promotion – but there truly is a “way” to do it.
I sometimes want to throw up when I encounter ego and that pride where someone thinks they are “all that” – and last week I had the pleasure of watching Chuck Swindoll on YouTube – he is a teacher that I listened to in the early 1990s and I owe him so much for teaching me about laughter, faith, wisdom, and outlook. And in his talk – which was at a seminary – he told the students that some of them would go on to be doctors – and they need to “get over it” – ha – love that. Now again, I am not saying to shrink. NOPE. I am not saying to quiet your song or keep your talents in a closet. But we all know that ego and pride can cause someone to get a superiority complex or get so caught up in self-promoting that they lose other (more valuable) things.
James Hurst (here) reminded us that pride is a wonderful thing – but can also be a terrible thing. And in Carnegie’s little booklet, he noted this: “Don’t hesitate to talk about your own experiences so long as you relate them with modesty.”
“Don’t hesitate to talk about your own experiences so long as you relate them with modesty. Audiences are interested in what life has taught you. Your experiences are interesting when you use them to teach and not to boast.”
Second: The little note from Carnegie. It was short- but packed with his essence. Especially loved the reminder to “continue to grow” – because this is what wellness is about.
Growing – staying teachable – and not over-promoting self to get “some” status in this world – instead – finding contentment in doing what we do and if and when it comes time to promote – let us do it with modesty and stay in tune with balance (because pride is sneaky and leaky).
BOOK 2: How to Talk So People Listen by Sonya Hamlin
I love this book so much I am getting yet another copy.
I gave my last copy away to an acquaintance. She is working with juries and Hamlin’s first book was actually for the legal field, which was called “What Makes Juries Listen” (here)
In this 1988 book (with many updates) Hamlin was ahead of her time when she began addressing our need for dealing with short attention spans and image-saturated minds…. she also has an astute awareness of how people track with a speaker and the communication traps to avoid (simple, effective tips).
I love this book because she has ideas for growing understanding of working with different generations, cultures, expectations, settings, and needs.
In the section below, I wanted to share what she wrote about “work”and how work should be embraced because we CAN enjoy our work-life balance more (where 3/5 of our waking time is at our job – usually).
I often remind people that the goal in life is NOT to “not work” (unless you have reached retirement) but the goal is to do work that you like and that aligns with your wiring, skills, and current needs. Work is good for humans. So Hamlin offers ideas for identifying and dealing with the hidden emotional agendas people carry around at work.
Oh and in the image, look right below the snippet on work – see how she mentions status? Hamlin has a social psychologist side and she helps people identify that lust for status and the traps that might come at different life phases.
BOOK 3: To The Fullest by Lorraine Bracco (and Lisa Davis)
I have mentioned this book on my blog before – and sometimes I skim the pages because I just like the way this book reads.
Some authors write in a way to where we get a delightful sense of them. I feel this way with Louis L’Amour – I keep one of his paperbacks in my gym bag and I like to have his story in my head when I want to get away mentally. Similarly, a few times I have found myself skimming To The Fullest to just hear Bracco’s quiet tone and simple reminders about how practical and easy the little steps are for “cleaning up your act” and how we get healthy from the inside out. And this “keto eating” does go against the mainstream – but we can do it and Bracco reminds we can do it WITHOUT it being weird or feeling awkward.
My pet-peeve with this book?
The publisher has photos of her on the front and back covers. It is way too much author photo, especially for those of us who sometimes tug around hardcover books. Constantly seeing her big smile and those cutesy poses (caught in a laugh) is a visual hindrance. And I get that sometimes authors need to be on the covers of their books – especially if it is a celeb and maybe the promo is playing off the fame – but in this case – Lorraine Bracco does not really look like the characters she played in the 1990s (wife in A Few Good Men and therapist in Sopranos). So it is not needed. The inside cover page would have been enough – but it is the third “smiling-filled-with-uncontainable-joy” picture of her… besides that – the book jams as a practical health book.
Here are some book snippets.
First – I love what she added about essential oils:
And then many of us have heard this chinese medicine stuff before – but here is some of her sharing the emotional connection to the physical body (the organs).
Closing Thoughts for Book Lovers and Authors
~ I was over at Tourmaline’s blog and she had a quote worth sharing – it was in her post, On Measuring Success (here):
“I think the path to creative success begins with a pride in your work. Are you creating work that you love, that fills your creative craving? Maybe your work isn’t always your definition of complete perfection, but can you look at your latest image and think ‘this is it, I’m getting it, this is where I need to be?’ If not, why not?”
~ If you want a blog that has awesome BOOK resources, be sure to check out Chris, The Story Reading Ape (here)
~ Colline Kook-Chun (here) is reviewing a lot of books this year on her blog and she does it so well.
~ The Book Club Mom (here) has some great book reviews and offers tips to “read this, not that”
~I did have a 4th book from September, How to Read Literature Like a Professor, by Thomas C. Foster (here). This is another book I will always have a copy of on my bookshelf (and will replace it as needed – because yes – I will be giving copies away as situation arises). Also, this is another book I like to skim from time to time because I don’t mind the author being in my head. The author’s smooth demeanor with “humbled intellectual humor” is nice. Foster is brilliant – but NOT full of himself – and he talks to the reader with ease as his teacher’s heart seeps through the pages while he informs, entertains, and engages the reader.
Thanks for reading and I hope you have a wonderful day…
Bracco, L. (2015). To the fullest.
Carnegie, D. (1912/1965). The Dale Carnegie course in effective speaking and human relations.
Foster, T. (2014). How to read literature like a professor. Berkley, CA: Berkley Books.
Hamlin, S. (1988). How to talk so people listen.